Getting to know yourself
The age-old question that many have asked before, but not everyone takes the time to answer. The question of, who am I?
What you do to bring home the bacon, is not who you are. That’s just a job. The sacrifices we make (Whether for friends, siblings, children, lovers, parents, employees, or bosses) are not who we are. These are just choices we make. The things we do in our spare time are not who we are. These are our interests. Our appearance isn’t who we are, and it doesn’t necessarily reflect who we are either. Do you see where I am going with this?
So when answering the question of who you are, where do you start?
Getting to the core
So what is the psychological core of a person? It is the central, internal, and consistent part of an individual’s personality. This includes an individual’s self-concept, personal values, attitudes, and motives. A person's true self is for all intents and purposes.
Self-concept is how we evaluate ourselves and experiences. Self-concept is directly linked to your confidence. We have already covered self-concept in our post about self-awareness if you would like to go into deeper detail.
Your personal values are central to who you are and who you want to become. The list of values a person can have is vast. Identifying and taking the time to understand your values is an important, albeit challenging, exercise.
By becoming more aware of your personal values, you can use them as a guide and make the best choice in any situation. Core values help form your thoughts, decisions, and actions and help you align your career or life path to what's important to you. They're the essential foundation in finding your life purpose, because they remind us – and others – who we truly are.
Motivation is defined as the process behind goal-oriented behaviors. Motivation is what causes you to act but also creates a willingness to expend time and energy towards achieving your goal.
There are three components to motivation: activation, persistence, and intensity.
1. Activation involves the decision to initiate a behavior or the reason behind wanting to achieve a new goal.
2. Persistence is the continued effort toward a goal despite obstacles.
3. Intensity can be seen in the concentration, effort and vigor that goes into pursuing a goal.
Attitudes create habits and beliefs. They can be divided into two categories: Helpful and unhelpful. Our journey of maturity and growth can be measured by the speed at which we grow out of habits and beliefs which do not serve us, in exchange for those which do.
If you want to grow, we must confront ourselves by identifying what behaviors, attitudes or beliefs we have, which are not working for us and take responsibility for these things. Responsibility breeds empowerment.
Understanding your Core-self is important. By becoming more aware of who you are at your core, you will be better guided to make the best choice in any situation.
That's it for today! Did you learn something new about yourself? Till next time, have a Zen day!